after a few weeks of wondering, this is what she comes up with:

his interest in her comes from the part of him that still believes he can have her without obligation. he believes he can exist with her from 8 p.m. to 11 p.m. and enter a private & personal world that they will create that will cease to exist in the off hours of the day. he believes that this world will be independent of other worlds he might create on another night, in another place, & he has no intention of allowing it to interfere with his true quest for a mate. he believes that in this affair, what is given back & forth will be exactly even, and that they will both see the benefits that they are receiving. but because he picked her out of sight alone, he fails to see that her fragility, which he smelled and sensed and is lured by, runs deep in her heart and is part of her nature, and cannot be seperated out for him to fuck.